The 69 is one of the most classic positions for the practice of oral sex. The traditional way is with the bodies inverted horizontally, hence its name. However, there are many ways to practice 69; since minor variations translate into a more extraordinary explosion of pleasure. In addition, including adjustments in the form of doing it allows you to avoid the monotony of sexual encounters.
Despite its popularity, not everyone enjoys this sexual position. The first step to finding pleasure in it is for both of you to be willing to experience it. The above applies to sex in general and when trying other sexual positions in bed.
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Basic principles to do the 69
Position 69 is one of the best-known in the Kama Sutra. In this sex manual, it is not described as such but is called a “congress of a crow” or “crow position.” It is perfect for mutual oral sex, although it is not exempt from certain discomforts. For example, when the height difference is unequal between the two or when you do not enjoy giving pleasure and receiving it simultaneously.
Apart from this, most people enjoy 69, either as part of the preliminaries or as a “main course.” As with any other sexual position, certain aspects are overlooked, affecting comfort and pleasure. Take note of the following tips for doing 69 if you want to avoid monotony the next time you do it:
- Please choose the best place to do it. Depending on which variant you will do, one site will serve you more than another to do 69. The bed is not the only one available, and there is even unique furniture to take 100% advantage of the position. Tantra armchairs are the best examples.
- Never stop using your hands. A common mistake when executing 69 is to give the hands a secondary role. Combined with lips and tongue, they can make each other explode with pleasure. By the way, we are not referring to stimulating only the genitals; since a good part of the body can be reached by having both hands free.
- Protect your neck. This is a piece of advice that is more pertinent for those below when running in a horizontal position. Using a pillow or cushion allows better access to your partner and translates into greater comfort.
- Ask what your partner likes. In practice, this is the best advice to do 69. Communication in sex is essential to achieve pleasure and improve dynamics, satisfaction, and union. Don’t be afraid to ask your partner what they like and don’t like before trying to figure it out for yourself.
Although they seem like simple recommendations, the truth is that, in practice, they translate into better execution, comfort, and pleasure. Do not relegate a simple “procedure” role to this position; if both dedicate time to it and are encouraged to try new things, it can be more pleasant than conventional intercourse.
Five ways to do 69
We have already pointed out that the classic or traditional variant of doing 69 is when one of the two lies on the other in a horizontal position. From this, many variants have been created which allow you to explore different levels of pleasure. We leave you with five ways to practice 69 without falling into monotony.
1.69 inverted
This is the most popular variant of the classical position, which is relevant when the couple comprises a man and a woman. It consists of the woman at the bottom and the man at the top when executing it. In this, the man controls the level of depth during oral sex, so it is indicated for couples who want to play with this feature.
2. From the side
It consists of imitating the original 69 but placing each one on one side of the other. It avoids discomfort and is easier for overweight people. Also, in cases where there is a significant difference in size between lovers, it allows for shortening the limitations.
Neither has to bear the weight of the other, and the muscles are more relaxed and distended, which translates into less effort or discomfort. Still, ideally, they should use a cushion or pillow for support, although the inside of your partner’s supporting leg can also work.
3. Sitting backward
This position has its degrees of difficulty, but it is not impossible. To do it, either of the two must remain seated on a sofa or a chair, preferably one with a certain angle of recline. Meanwhile, the other approaches from above and leans down until dangling so both can access each other’s genitals.
It is recommended that the person sitting be the man or the person with the greatest strength. After all, he must support most of his partner’s weight while she supports herself with her arms on her partner’s legs or the base of the sofa. It can also be done in bed by placing several things to recline your back or using your arms behind you for support.
4. Stand up
This variant is known in English as Standing 69 and is perhaps the most difficult of all. Even so, we cannot stop describing it, especially for those looking for new challenges in bed.
To perform this position, the woman must perch on the edge of the bed while her boy, or whoever has greater strength and flexibility, leans towards her and places his hands under her waist. Right at that moment, she must take advantage and put her legs on her partner’s shoulders to, later, hug her body.
Then, whoever has the active position must use their legs as the impulse to lift and carry it while the woman is face down. It is a very physically demanding position, so holding it for only a few minutes is recommended.
5. On the edge of the bed
If the previous variation of 69 seems too difficult for you, you can try this position that reduces muscular effort. To do it, you must follow the first step of standing 69: the woman stands on the edge of the bed, and her partner approaches to take her. Instead of lifting her, the latter takes her partner’s hip and lifts her to her face.
To maintain this position, you can do a tension lever with your knee over the edge of the bed. Similarly, it would be best to lower your hips to allow the girl to complete the position. Many use this variation as “practice” before moving to the standing 69.
Tricks and techniques to enjoy the 69 posture
Running the above variants isn’t the only thing you can do to avoid monotony. We leave you with other ideas that you can discuss with your partner to include during the next session.
1. Use a vibrator or dildo
Although the scoop of 69 is only to do oral sex, everything is valid regarding obtaining pleasure. Using a vibrator or a dildo can increase the stimulation level; it can also prevent the action from focusing only on the movements of the tongue. Incorporating these sex toys increases the satisfaction and pleasure of the couple.
2. Use a penis ring
If one of the two has a penis, or both, a vibrating ring, or a ring alone, can be an alternative to make the practice more pleasant. It helps to achieve a better erection but must be used carefully to avoid injury. Follow our tips for using it so you don’t have a day of excitement with sequels.
3. Add lubricants or sexual massage creams
Fats are pertinent when dildos or vibrators are added in between, so they should not be underestimated. Lotions, for their part, can raise eroticism by massaging before, during, and after doing 69. The latter is a different way of incorporating your hands into the game, as we have already recommended at the beginning.
4. Dare to practice analingus
Analingus is a practice enjoyed by millions of people worldwide, and it is not incompatible with doing 69. For greater comfort, the ideal is to use the classic variant to practice it.
If you combine these tricks with the tips and variations that we have indicated, you can add variety to the routine. Again, talk to your partner about what you would like to try, and do not close yourself off by adding things unrelated to these proposals if you agree.
Final recommendations
In short, this position of 69 requires collaboration and commitment. Smells, humidity, and erogenous points like the anus are visible and within reach, so a previous shower goes very well. In addition, if they incorporate flavored gels, they will make the experience explosive, more exciting, and pleasant.
The position will continue to be the classic of the classics; there is no doubt. Knowing how to do it in the way that best suits each couple makes 69 a more exciting act. We cannot say goodbye without recommending that you read our hygiene advice before and after oral sex to enjoy your sexuality safely and healthily in every way.